Energy is currency. Where, when, and on whom you spend it — matters.
“My ex-boyfriend is still shit talking about me, two years after our breakup,,” a friend wrote me yesterday, “How can I stop him?”
My response to her was this:
“Recently, I was walking to be with turtles when I happened upon two people after a fender bender. I didn’t understand their words because they were communicating in fast paced French but being someone interested in human behavior, I stopped to observe. The man was shaking his hands and yelling aggressively in the woman’s face. The woman was paling and shrinking as the man more deeply invaded her personal space.
I thought to myself, ‘I bet this is the man’s fault because he is trying too hard to convince her it’s not.’ I was right about that — the man got the traffic ticket.
Don’t waste any of your precious energies responding. Don’t let yourself wane, pale, or shrink. Feel into the ways that you were in your relationship, the ways you want to change and grow, the ways you want your next relationship to be different because you will bravely make it so — and then put your energies into those changes. And know that whatever negative energies your ex is sending your way, those are energies he is NOT using to change and become the person he could be — if only he wasn’t shit talking.
The people who know you, know you.
Most everyone wants to find new heights within themselves. Some do that by the difficult, sometimes painful, stretch that comes with transformation. Others do it by shrinking everyone around them so that they feel taller, only by comparison.
It’s a choice.
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Let’s imagine for a moment that your mother fell off a horse as a child and she never got back on. During your lifetime, she never took you horseback riding because she was no longer comfortable around horses. They weren’t in your periphery, or so you thought, and you weren’t passionate to meet any, so it wasn’t a difficulty for you.
In this imagined example, you are in your mid-30’s when you fall madly and passionately in love with a man that owns a ranch. He is everything you hoped to have in love, but every time you visit him there, you feel uncomfortable. You have thirty something years of feeling your mother’s anxiety in your nervous system that you experienced whenever images or words relating to horses arose. Despite a yearning to be with your love in all ways possible, there are parts of the ranch that you don’t visit because your anxiety heightens there. Your world becomes separated from much of his world and what he loves.
Despite feeling freedom in love, your world in which you are comfortable is suddenly smaller.
Not understanding this anxiety because you have never been around or ridden horses, you assume it’s something about him and you begin to nitpick fights with him.
When you do this, you remind him of his critical mother, and he shuts down and pulls away just as he did from his mother as teenager. His responses are immature for this reason and you begin to ask yourself, “How could I have been so wrong about him?”
Your dreams of love begin to slip away.
The anxiety that you feel about all things ‘horse’ is an inheritance.
Your intuitive guides are educated and/or experienced in psychology, but even more so, they were drawn together to Sana Dea by their spiritual inheritances — by their intuition to expose these experiences that limit who you are and how you exist in the world.
In this example, unearthing the anxiety caused by horses and verbally sharing that with you won’t likely change anything. Your anxiety will not likely be remedied by words alone. Anxiety is an experience of the body that is being communicated to you, “I don’t feel safe. I am uncomfortable.” To remedy that communication, the body needs an experience of feeling safe and comfortable.
In this example, we would have to help you to experience the act of engaging with horses in a positive way, first from a distance, then nearer and nearer. As each step progresses, your nervous system begins to feel more comfortable with horses and your anxiety becomes less. The fighting subsides and horses becomes a point of connection and shared experiences. Your enthusiasm for horses becomes greater and you begin to manifest the relationship with horses you never knew you wanted — but one that connects you passionately to the man that you love.
You reclaim the parts of your fullest self that have been limited by that which you inherited from your mother.
Imagine this package might make that possible. One time a week you meet with your intuitive guide to unearth and expose the cages that you keep you stuck through breath, visualizations, meaning making, inner child and parts dialoguing, and body experience exploration. In these sessions, your guide will use imagery and breath to release the old experiences and implant new experiences of horses. Your guide will then communicate these blocks to Johanna, our movement guide. Johanna will engage her own intuition to engage you in breath, yoga poses, movement, verbalization, and imagery to give your body new experiences of horses. Because emotions such an anxiety are energies — negative energies, Johanna will also provide 30 minutes of distance reiki to re-energize the movement and release of old, trapped, negative emotions and other negative energies your body has been storing. Shamanic journey and hypnosis induce a more creative, relaxed state of consciousness by which you can create new stories of your life and ask for help from powers greater than yourself including ancestors, any Higher Powers, spirit animals, loved ones, and your higher self.
1 4-Week SEASON OF CHANGE package includes:
1 50-minute intake session with intuitive guide
1 50-minute guiding session per week including inner child and parts exploration, breathwork, somatic exploration, meaning making, and visualization,
1 30-minute yoga/movement for blockages session per week
1 30-minute distance reiki session per week
1 90-minute hypnosis session
1 90-minute Shamanic Journey
1 pair of foot jewelry, designed and created with precious or semi-precious stones by your coaches, specifically for you and the transformation you want to make
Don’t just transcend your experiences or those of your ancesters!